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| As we have noted already a vast number of school paddlings in the US are unreported. They are not reported to the US Department of Education as required, and many states, as well as individual schools, fail to track paddling in any way as well. Very often paddlings are totally unreported, even to parents. Even if a school has “parental notification” policies, or even if they “ask for parental consent” as a matter of policy, they often nonetheless paddle students without asking or notifying. The parent has no legal recourse when they do. When the student turns 18 the paddlings can, with bizarre and likely unconstitutional logic, be performed without parental notification since the “child” to be paddled is now a legal adult US citizen. | | Many beautiful young women in fact “choose” to “spread their legs and bend over” for male assistant principals for their very first paddling after they become legal adults at age 18 or beyond. For some that is not only their first paddling but their first “spanking” or beating of any type if their parents did not believe in violent child care. These parents naively trusted the “parental notification” clauses, that some schools create and tout in semi-enlightened communities, to give them “control” over school-inflicted violence to their children. In fact these clauses were never designed to protect children. They only exist in paddle-loving schools to inhibit parental criticism of paddling when the percentage of enlightened parents begins to threaten paddling itself. As long as parents are “given the choice,” or so they believe, then the issue seems to magically shift from, “should the school be battering children black and blue” to “parental rights”--just like home spanking. Now it seems the school isn’t paddling anymore—they are mere mindless extensions of various parental whims regarding discipline. They only batter the kids whose parents approve. Beyond the fact that such a school has a highly unjust policy of various students being treated radically different for the same offenses, based on parental whim alone, these policies serve only to confuse the issue. They mollify everyone enough to “keep the paddle swinging” for another decade or two after it might have naturally ended if “school paddling” were meted out to all children, regardless of parental wishes. The paddle goes on much as before, giving a lip service “escape” to silence critics but in reality victimizing any student that paddlers wish to abuse. This is especially true at the high school level where the student’s GPA can be used, in conjunction with extreme suspension “alternatives” for trivial violations that no non-paddling school would consider, to railroad nearly any student to “want to choose the paddle.” This, of course, works much to the satisfaction of school employees who like to paddle and who want to paddle. | | What the “opt out” parents don’t realize, however, is that their child is in extreme danger from the mere fact that they attend a paddling school in the first place. They will be traumatized, perhaps sexualized, just by being “around” paddling when their friends are victimized. They will suffer inordinately from the harsh “alternatives” that are designed to make students “want to choose the paddle.” Their grades and sports will suffer if they don’t “bend over” for the men in charge. The parents “approval”—that might work in elementary when sports and GPAs are not a concern, will, in the end at the high school level, either not be sought, or their child will beg for paddling under great duress from extreme “alternate punishments.” Without a doubt these semi-enlightened parents never dreamed that spanking would suddenly become a “fresh issue” when their child became a legal adult and could then “choose her own paddling” without parental notification. Often the parent never even hears of these cases if the student does not want them to make waves. These parent’s real mistake was to ever allow their child to attend a paddling school in the first place regardless of “feel good,” but ultimately useless, parental notification clauses. The fact is the school paddles students. They are not really “an extension of each parent’s whims”—although for a time the child’s treatment in school is unjustly mirrored by that accident of birth. Ultimately the men in these schools like to paddle—especially teen and adult young women—which is why they keep the “paddle option” in the book even though they know it to be unnecessary and don't apply it to all students. Ultimately “horny” male principals will concoct situations that force attractive teens, despite parental reservations, to take a secret paddling, to take her “first one” when she turns 18, or beg her parents to “allow” her to be paddled rather than lose her GPA and sports in the only, severe, grade harming alternative offered. | | Sometimes entire districts are derelict in their duty, or are ashamed of their abusive practices, and most or all of their paddlings are not recorded. In other cases the districts do actively compile records and the board expects the paddlers to be honest, but there are nonetheless paddlings that are “off the record.” The parents never hear about it. The school does not record it. The child is humiliated and does not tell her parents because she rightly fears they would make a fuss and her paddling would become the center of the town’s attention. She very correctly realizes that telling mom and dad would only lead to her shame being compounded. She knows, and is again correct, that no good would come of it anyway. | | Very often “deals are made” and the spanking or paddling is more sexually charged than the men could normally get away with, but it is a “secret.” No record of the paddling is placed in the school’s file. The teen girl gets the benefit of “taking a spanking” and having a “clean record” that doesn’t show up, and she doesn’t lose out on her graduation, GPA, or sports. We can easily see why she is coerced and why she submits to the especially sexually charged spanking. What, we may wonder, is the “benefit” to the male paddlers who make such “secret deals?” Surely the “deal” they cook up benefits them in some way as they have an extreme amount of leeway in imposing penalties, or even in seeking out and catching students for wrong doing. Perhaps they are, as they tell their victims, very nice guys, who paddle extremely hard and brutally when they can, who are “just trying to help the poor girl out.” | | These “special abuses” are easily coerced when you have pretty 18-year-old girls who are conditioned to submit to spanking or paddling by the home, school, or both, and men who want to spank them in some way that might raise eyebrows even in a “gung-ho” paddling school. Kids are kids. Even nearly perfect honor students will sometime “screw up” and the “man in authority” somehow “has her over a barrel.” The fact that he works out these “special spanking deals” shows that he likes to spank, just as a police officer who “works out a deal” with a pretty young woman he “catches” speeding or with some pot in her purse does not have the law in mind when his hand slips down her panties. In either case the seemingly “quick and easy” submission to sexual assault leaves far deeper and longer lasting scars than any official punishment would bring—although the terrified young person does not see that at first. The deal making paddler sees an opportunity for some sex-spanking blackmail using his taxpayer-funded position of authority. In our schools this authority/sex abuse is semi-hidden with the “spanking” pretense—but not hidden enough for the principal to make special deals openly. Nonetheless, since “spanking” is the pretext, even if his “secret deal” does become known he can most likely still get away with it. The “official paddling” supports even “secret spanking deals” to a great degree since it is just a variation on something that is completely legal and supported, whereas a non-paddling sexual “deal” would raise some eyebrows at the least. | | There are also many cases of “spanking” that the parents never hear about in other venues, such as church camps, uncles’ houses, and friend’s houses, that I think they would be shocked by. In fact there is a tremendous amount of overt sexual abuse that commonly goes on. The child victims, however, nearly always “keep the secret.” The parents never know. The “spanking pretext” can really bury the secret shame and sex abuse to the children as it has a “cover” of legitimacy no matter how violent or improper it is. Instead of someday realizing that they were taken advantage of the way sexually abused kids eventually do, even if it is in middle age, our “official” sex abuse, hidden as spanking, always carries doubts as to the motive of the abuser. Society and the victim can never be completely sure a crime or exploitation was intended even if we do see tremendous lifetime harm to the child, and even if the mannerisms of the abusers seemed to be evident. |
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