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| There are some parents, of course, who for various reasons don’t want to “wake up.” Some of them want their children paddled through teen years. Some have “pure motives”—maybe based on the fact that they were beaten and it seems natural—while many others do not. There are men who sexually enjoy spanking and paddling their stepdaughter or teen niece who can “hide” their sexual/spanking abuse by the fact that the public or “Christian” school “does the same thing.” | | School paddling breaks down children’s resistance and sexual modesty. They more readily accept similar treatment at churches, neighbor’s houses, church camps, or on the job as young women. If you, for whatever reason, wanted to create a society of easily abused teens a very good method would be to support the school “doing your dirty work” and preparing kids to submit to, and accept, abuse. It helps molesters a lot too if the kids are ashamed and don’t want to talk about it, if the injuries are hidden in their “underwear area, and if they feel the abuse is “all their fault.” | | If the silent parents really support paddling in high paddling areas, however, it certainly does not explain why some of those same parents “go along” and then “suddenly” get irate. In many cases their “support” was not real support at all but was based instead on misinformation, lies, and a system that forcefully crushes dissent at every level. Many parents, even in the high paddling areas, do not spank or paddle their own teens at home. They obviously do not believe their child, at least of that age, should be “spanked” in any way by strangers. Others spank at home but do not feel anyone else should have “that right.” They too can become incensed when their children are beaten at school. Why do people who don’t believe in beating their own children nonetheless remain silent, and thus give tacit approval to paddling, until it is too late? | | There are many reasons for parental ignorance, doublethink, and utter helplessness in regards to school paddling. It is difficult for parents to learn the full truth behind the ritual abuse or to challenge it if they do. Preachers and school staff systematically and deliberately mislead parents. “We only do ‘good paddling’ here.” “There is a difference between ‘good spanking’ and ‘abuse’… (‘We can’t explain the difference but we know what it is.’)” The lies never end. They beat the parents down with a steady rhythm of lies and pompous but vague justifications just like their paddle hits do to the children. “We don’t paddle except as a last resort,” when in fact the school paddles for trivial “class one violations.” Naive parents are led to imagine that only “really bad kids” are paddled, and then only for “very serious” offenses. | | Some of these parents may themselves have suffered traumatic beatings and may be “recreating” their experiences through their children, even subconsciously, while others just want to “fit in” and have their children “fit in” to the local society no matter how abusive and backward it is. We’ve seen this in cases where students move from non-paddling states into paddling school districts. The parents and students “go along” so they can “fit in.” Some are intimidated by the school and believe whatever the school does “must be right.” Some parents and college-bound students are coerced into silence and acceptance, even when they feel paddling is physically and sexually violating, with artificially long suspension alternates that non-paddling schools would never use for similar violations. Harsh choices for trivial violations serve abusers by making paddling the “best alternate” that students are offered. (In reality submitting to child abuse carries hidden, lifelong, psychological harm far beyond grades and college choices that make it by far the worst alternative). Some fear normal teen rebellion might “spin out of control,” especially when an otherwise good child is caught shoplifting or doing something else that seems especially alarming. This occurs even in cases where parents never allowed their children to be beaten before. They may reason, with “helpful persuasion” from “strict butt-spankers” that want to “help out” correcting their sexy teens, that “non-violence didn’t work” so “maybe it’s time to beat the kid’s ass (and let me do it please).” Of course the child abuser’s logic fails if the teen continues doing wrong things when the beating sessions are in place. Then the rationale changes to, “they need more severe beatings.” Some parents who might otherwise object are brainwashed by school and church into believing that an outward show of “unity” with the school is more important than preventing their children from being abused. | | Some parents continue with silence or support even after their child is subjected to a very brutal or sexually charged assault. Some make it clear that they really don’t want to hear any details or know what went on. Several paddled women have said as much. More often, however, the parents would like to know and would do something if they could, but various forces conspire to keep them in the dark. They do not really know the extent of the improprieties and brutality their children are suffering. Nearly all of the paddled women we interviewed did not feel they could openly talk to their parents about it. Some believed their parents were fully supportive and were “in on it.” Other victims, however, were more worried that their parents would be outraged about the brutal and sexual aspects and would create a stir that would, in the final analysis, do no good and would only serve to embarrass them further. Suffice it to say to you parents in paddling schools: you do not know what is going on with your children when they are paddled. You do not know how long they were in the office in total, how long they had to remain “in position,” what exact clothes they wore, what position(s) they had to assume for paddling and waiting, whether the paddling was secretly videotaped and for what purpose, how hard the paddler(s) hit them, how many “extra witnesses” were on the scene, whether sexually abusive remarks were made, whether questionable jokes were made, whether the child felt humiliated, whether the child believed her paddlers enjoyed what they were doing, and whether she was bruised, how extensively, and for how long. For differing reasons neither the school nor your child is about to reveal these dark and hidden secrets. | | I can’t help but believe that many “supportive” parents would be outraged if they knew exactly what transpired with their daughter’s paddling. They imagine a quick few swats. Even that would be extremely sexually charged. In reality, however, these paddlings are often long, drawn out affairs with a lot of sexual innuendo and violation that the victim misleads her parents about if asked. If parents realized that these paddlings might be secretly and legally videotaped for the principal’s and other’s continuing pornographic amusement, or even sold on the internet or on tape to wealthy school donors or to porno customers for big money, I don’t think they would like that aspect either. |
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